Hi, it’s Juliana! It’s very common for narcissists to use “humor” to emotionally and verbally abuse you. They’ll say something mean, then quickly follow it up with “I’m just kidding” to avoid accountability. And this can make you question whether you’re being “too sensitive.” But here’s the thing. There’s no universal rule for what’s funny and what isn’t. That’s something you get to decide. One way to do this is with an exercise called “What’s funny?” Step 1: Create a Green, Yellow, and Red list